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This picture is an old favorite and often reminds me of an experience I had that I want to share with you.

The first time I ever had a prostate milking that resulted in a non-orgasmic ejaculation was after a couple weeks of being denied orgasm, and during strap-on sex. My ex-partner leaned me over the edge of our bed and fucked me with her strap-on really hard and fast and wonderfully and I loved it, but I didn’t feel like I was getting off or even getting that hard, really. But when she finished and I got up off the bed, we noticed there was a massive wet spot where my crotch was pushing into the mattress.

Sure enough, it was semen. Turns out, I’d ejaculated but didn’t even feel it coming out of me. We had been trying, earlier in the week, to do a proper prostate massage (“milking”) but hadn’t ever managed it successfully. So this was a new and surprising experience. It taught us, well, just keep going and let it happen; that is, not to worry so much about whether or not ejaculate comes out of my cock after lots of prostate stimulation. If it hasn’t, it doesn’t mean it won’t, it just means I haven’t waited long enough. :)

And while we’re on the topic of prostate milking, Lady Lubyanka wrote a verbose yet thorough prostate milking guide from a BDSM perspective that’s worth knowing about, and there are a number of generic websites devoted to prostate milking easily findable via Google. The better ones are found on chastity fetish-related websites, though, like this prostate milking guide from Chastity-UK. And this blog has a good (if outdated) lists of more resources along with an audio podcast episode about chastity generally.

Frustratingly, there is an enormous amount of terminological confusion on the topic of male milking and orgasm nuance. Sarah Jameson’s “Male Chastity Blog” has some of the most muddied language on the topic I’ve ever read, and that’s frustrating because it’s an oft-cited source. For instance, I think that what most people call a “ruined orgasm,” in which a person is brought to peak arousal but then all stimulation is removed just as climax hits, should really be called an abandoned orgasm. Because seriously, sometimes that doesn’t “ruin” anything, it adds to the fun! On the other hand, if the person wanted a full orgasm with follow through and everything, but got an abandoned orgasm instead, then maybe it’s fair to call the orgasm “ruined,” in which case abandoning an orgasm is but one way to go about ruining orgasms out of many. Others might be minimized (i.e., where sensation is actively minimized, rather than merely stimulation being ceased), and painful (i.e., where the orgasm itself is made purposefully painful, perhaps with the use of a Kali’s Teeth Bracelet).

Anyway, boo on terminological confusion. Someone should fix that…. And maybe someone will.

But in the mean time, this picture is super hot in part because it reminds me of the above but with the added dimension of strict bondage, and also because it reminds me how worked up I am by putting the idea that I once did, in fact, “come” with non-penile stimulation at all back in my mind. And what with you getting off while I’m far away and abstaining, that’s a thought that spawns ridiculously hot fantasies in my mind.

Fantasies like having strap-on sex after days and days and days (and weeks?) of abstinence play where I’m not necessarily bound, but in which we simply don’t actually touch my cock at all because the act-in-the-negative (i.e., the not touching) is actually the thing that’s turning us on in the positive. I imagine that might actually be an enormous challenge, mentally, for me. Just thinking about it is making my cock scream for attention.

But I’ll be good and go to sleep. Thankfully, I’m so tired. :) I hope I dream of you.

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He should be so grateful to her, isn’t?